The parents of a 20-year-old man have spoken about what they feel is a lack of support for people suffering from mental health problems following the death of their son.
Heartbroken Jo and Karl Hubbard, of Terrington St Clement, have taken the brave step to share their son Kieran’s thoughts in the hope of raising awareness.
Kieran, father to three-month-old son Jacob, was found dead on February 8 at a building site in Manchester where he had been working.
“The weekend before his death, we went shopping, saw the football and took the little one for a walk – all the normal things,” said Mrs Hubbard, 42.
“But the weekend after, he never came back. It was a shock.”
Kieran, brother to Anais 18, and Astrid 15, grew up in Heacham and was a pupil at Hunstanton’s Smithdon High School.
“Everyone who knew Kieran described him as a lovable rogue,” said Mrs Hubbard. “He had a good sense of humour, was good fun and he was very loyal. He knew he was loved.”
Mr Hubbard, 44, director at PCE Ltd, the construction company where Kieran worked, said 150 people had attended the funeral service at Mintlyn Crematorium, King’s Lynn, on March 1.
“It just shows you how popular he was. He would do anything for anyone. Yet he was suffering himself,” he said.
They couple said Kieran had sought help to overcome difficulties with his mental health during his life.
But Mr Hubbard felt the support network provided by the professionals had been “terrible”.
He said: “Kieran was always trying to get help. But when he tried to talk to someone, he felt they didn’t have a clue.
“Although problems are identified (by professionals), it’s what happens afterwards. You go to the doctors and then are put on waiting lists.
“This is the bit where we get frustrated. It’s like there is nowhere to go. There’s no funding.”
Mr and Mrs Hubbard also felt there was still a stigma surrounding mental health.
“People thought he was lazy and moody. But he was physically and mentally tired trying to put on a big brave smile. Kieran used to say it’s not a mindset, it’s an invisible and incurable disease.
“He used to say if he had stage four cancer people would understand how he feels and accept he wanted it to end,” said Mr Hubbard.
Just months before his death, Kieran sent a text message to his dad expressing his feelings.
The couple have decided to share it and Mrs Hubbard said: “We feel Kieran would want us to do this.”
Kieran wrote: “I feel paralysed and an overwhelming sense of fear. It sounds ridiculous to anyone that doesn’t suffer with mental health, but I wouldn’t wish it on anyone.
“It’s like a complete state of trauma and you can’t speak, feel an urge to cry, too scared to be with anyone but not wanting to be alone, feeling lost about what to do or how to do it.”
Mr Hubbard added: “I think people who are suffering understand about mental health, but it’s family and friends who need to understand too.”
A fundraising page has been set up for Kieran’s son. Trust Fund for Jacob can be found on Facebook.